I Found My 14-Year Son Masturbating!


I found my 14 year old son masturbating. I was shocked. I cried. I almost killed myself. He is an introvert and has a few friends, so it surprised me how he knows how to. He was moaning and licking his fingers and the wall. He would rub his penis on the wall. I also noticed he has a bottle of coconut oil I have been looking for beside him. He keeps putting the oil on his penis. I couldn't bear it any more. I called his name but he didn't hear; he was so engrossed.  I had to scream his name. He almost fainted; he didn't know I would be home early.
I decided to be calm and called his daddy who rushed home immediately. We decided to sleep on it. It was the longest night of our life. We are godly parents. We trained our children very well. What did we do wrong ? We had time for them. We counsel them all the time against social vices. We refused to buy them phone until they completed secondary schools. We kept asking ourselves what we did wrong. So it baffled us how this son of ours in S.S1 knew how to masturbate. His elder sisters were exemplary children. I begged my hubby not be harsh and violent but to let us be cautious.

Early next morning, we went to his room, he looked sheepish. After praying with him, we asked him how he knew about masturbation. He said he watches pornographic movies on our phones. We were shocked. Hubby flew into rage, but I calmed him. I asked my son how since we don't have pornographic movies on our phones but my son said he watches it online through the browser on our phones. He said he usually goes into his bathroom to watch it to avoid us and his little brothers seeing him and that he has been doing it for three years. I was surprised. No wonder, he disappears all the time. I remember certain times we would be looking for our phones. So, it was all our fault that we didn't buy him a phone yet we gave him unlimited access to our phones.

I couldn't bear it anymore, so I left the room in tears. My husband came to our room later and told me he examined (he is a doctor) our son's penis and he noticed the veins are already weak due to constant mishandling and that our son confessed that he is already addicted to masturbation. We decided to take him through counseling and prayers to help him stop.

Now dear parents, you didn't buy phone for your children yet you gave them unlimited access to yours. These children are far more intelligent than we can imagine.
Please set boundaries on your phones and let your children respect your phones as much as they respect you. Use locks if necessary. My son is healing but yours might not be lucky. You may not even know until some nerve endings are damaged and beyond repair.

Parents please open your eyes and be careful. I just sent this to a parent I am helping deal with their teenage son.
Most of the time, parents just assume they know their children but the kids are really smarter with all the gizmos around.

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