Why I Forgave MyAbuser- Mo Fayose

When Mo Fayose’s abuser approached her for forgiveness, she gladly did, even though people said she should have reported him to the police. According to her, reporting her abuser would not have any effect on her mental and emotional health, so, she decided to let go.

Mo is the younger sister of the Ekiti State Governor, Ayodele Fayose.
She wrote recently, “Just looking through my memory archive, I asked myself this question... Mo, what makes you so mentally strong and stable? The only answer to that would be the sexual and physical abuse I sustained when I was a child... although it rocked the boat of my sanity for many years, but today, I give God the glory for giving me the strength and love to live again.”

Summer 2011, one of the men that sexually abused me sent me a message on Facebook and from the bottom of my heart, I forgave him. People that I tell the story to usually tell me that I should have reported him to the police..... but my answer is, will that replace the mental and emotional torture that I've been through???? Or of what use will it be to my life now???

“Today, am a very happy girl. I live and take each day as it come. I give unconditional love and always ensure that I leave a beautiful footprint anywhere I go… plus I get to share my story with those who are truly searching for sanity again.”
She therefore urged all those that have suffered one form of abuse or the other; “Remember this fact as you go around, forgiveness is for you, not for the person that abused you.”


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